Bystander Intervention: Responding to a Disclosure when the Survivor is Not Near You
“Hello there! I’m here to provide you with a bit of information on the things you can say or do to help a survivor when you receive information (via remote means or telecommunication) that an acquaintance or loved one has just encountered any form of SGBV or violation. I would like to remind you that suggestions on this post should not be taken as a one-size-fits-all approach. What the survivor is undergoing after having confronted a traumatic experience is normal. What you are going through while supporting a survivor is absolutely okay and typical too! If you need additional resources or just someone to talk to, feel free to reach out to The Neeti Project."
What is SGBV?
- SGBV is short for Sexual and Gender-Based Violence
What is a Disclosure?
A disclosure is when a person conveys a certain private or secret information to another person or a group of people. In this instance, the private or secret information pertains to the sexual and gender-based violence or violation the survivor confronted.
Prior Preparedness for Receiving SGBV Disclosures:
- Keep your mobile phone battery charged at all times. Inform loved ones and acquaintances to do the same.
- Keep back-up chargers or portable chargers at all times. Inform loved ones and acquaintances to do the same.
- Prepare a friend and/or family contact sheet in case of an emergency. Inform loved ones and acquaintances to do the same.
- Program a list of emergency contacts in your mobile phone. Inform loved ones and acquaintances to do the same.
- Save helpline numbers on your mobile phones.
Responding to a Disclosure When the Survivor is Not Near You:
Emergency situations:
- Contact the emergency resources in your area immediately and provide them with details you are aware of.
The DO's in Non-Emergency Situations:
- Use text, social media, or email to contact and stay in contact with the survivor.
- Reduce phone brightness, close phone applications, or switch on airplane mode on your device if this does not hinder your connectivity to the internet.
- Ask if the survivor's safety is at risk.
- Ensure the survivor is safe while they are making the disclosure.
- Ensure the survivor has reached a relatively more comfortable place to communicate.
- Ensure the survivor is making the disclosure from a safe place.
- Ensure the survivor has privacy in that place.
- Alert family or friends about the survivor's situation so that they are aware and provide additional help.
- Keep phone calls with the additional support network (friends and family) brief so that phone battery does not reduce in case the survivor wants to contact you.
- If feasible, encourage the survivor to meet you, ask the survivor where you can meet them, or encourage the survivor to go to another formal or informal support network for additional assistance.
- Avoid making voice calls to the survivor because you can experience network congestion at a crucial time.
- Withstand operating games, videos, music, etc. until you are sure the survivor is in a safe space as this could drain the technology's battery and increase network congestion.
References:
Federal
Communications Commission. (2011). Tips for communicating before, during,
and after disasters. Retrieved from
https://docs.fcc.gov/public/attachments/DOC-309723A1.pdf
The Centre for Sexual Violence Response, Support, and Education. (n.d.). How to respond to a disclosure. Retrieved from https://thecentre.yorku.ca/how-to-respond-to-a-disclosure/
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